[damianmkv]

I know there are a few NHS employees on here ( Graham & Claire ! ) but I have relatively little to do with the NHS usually.

My wife was admitted to hospital on Sunday at 8.30am via A&E ( phoned the emergency Doctor who phoned the Dr on call who told me to 'phone the emergency Dr[] - thanks for your help, mate, but I did and thats why I'm talking to you).

After 3 hours on A&E, she gets put on a drip for dehydration - the "service" is a bit slow but hey ho - I've got nothing better to do.

Then, we get transferred to the Maternity Ward - talk about hopeless [] - i started off thinking it was due to staff shortages but they really seem soooooo slooooooooow. When Natalie's drip ran out, it took a minimum of 1 hour to change it. Sickness ? Oh, OK - i'll get you a sickness tablet. 3 bloody hours each time !!! Want to watch TV ? £3 please. Pay it and the TV ( above bed LCD job ) doesn't work as it has no power to it ). Complain - "nothing to do with us, its an outside company" - really getting on my wick now.

No Obs done for a day. Scan to see how baby is doing ? " Sometime tomorrow we hope " - SHE'S BEEN IN 3 F'ING DAYS ALREADY!!!!!

What a bag of plop.I know they are short-staffed but our local Hospital don't give a monkeys - I even heard a nurse saying yesterday, when escorting a lady in last stages of labour" sorry about the wheelchair - its crap. What else can I say ? There's only so many times I can apologise for the crap equipment that I'm left to work with!"

Tonight I have given Natalie a shower there. Jeeeeees - if she's didn't go in with a bug, she'll come out with one - she was desperate but I wouldn't have bathed a dog in that

Gripe over ( sorry have had a crappy 3 days [:$] )

 

[Lisa B]

Terrible to hear stories like this, but think quite a few peeps have had a rough ride with some hospital or another, i know our family did when my grandad was dying of cancer a couple of years back in Addenbrookes, he contracted MRSA whilst in there, thus adding considerably to an already almighty uphill struggle, this sort of thing makes my blood boil, i see no need for uncleanliness in any hospital, think a lot of it is due to staff shortages.

Sorry for my rant, hope your wife is feeling better soon and that your new baby is well. []

 

[damianmkv]

cheers Lisa - no baby yet - not due til May - that's our fault aswell " why haven't you registered ?" ( in aggresive tone ) "because the appointment isn't for another 10 days !"

Oh, and there's waynette chav oppostive who is desperate for her 40 **** and 5 quid. What a joy - i'd be surprised if Natalie hasn't walked home come morning time

 

[marriedblonde]

Christ! Hope Mum to be gets sent home and is feeling well soon!

J.

 

[prawnstar]

sorry to hear about this mate, the one time you really want good service, the drip thing is outrageous.

I have to say at Wexham Park they have been astoundingly good, really impressed with the student midwife while in labour, really caring and very good, then the aftercare is superb too even though they are very short staffed, thats not their fault but they are run off their feet but help you at every turn

West Middlesex on the other hand, when I took Cat there when she was having early pregnancy problems, we were told to sit on this seat in the middle of the ward, I then asked a nurse after an hour what was happening, she turned to the dr or someone to ask her, who said in front of us

"I Couldn't care less at the moment I haven't even had time for a sandwich"

She then saw me and realised what she had said, and I gave her the I'm about to go Fkin Mental stare

plus I hate Chav Mothers now!

 

[mk4t]

Chav anything's are the pits ! [:O]

 

[damianmkv]

Christ! Hope Mum to be gets sent home and is feeling well soon!

J.

cheers James - mixed emotions for her I guess as Charlie has spent 48 hours chucking. I'm fapping fubar'd.....( in which case, what am I doing on here at 11pm ?[*-)] )

Haven't been on for a while - is everything OK with Claire ?

 

[andymac]

feel for you mate I have spent alot of time on maternity wards.... take it the wife has extrem morning sickness. and cannot hold anything down and its making here de-hydrated? if so do a google for hyperremis gravidarum, its extreme mornin sickness.

My wife sent 4months in hospital with it on our second child.

Thing is you need to complain big time... we have the choice of two hospitals and the womens was the first we used, unfourtunately when she had a miscarriage, I wrote a 2 page letter of complaint and even had a meeting with the Direcotr of the hospital, stuff like ward orderlys cleaning up, then using the same pinny to serve food, a feood wrapper with chewed up sweet undeer here bed for 6 days, not being offered a change of bedding for 24 hours after a miscarriage.... I nearly killed the director when I saw her.

When she was sick with our second afterwards we stayed away from the womens and used a general hospital, whilst old it was good, however as always with excessive morning sickness you will get little symapathy from the staff, they see it as weak willed women. However my wife got so de-hydrated she ended up in a neurolgical emergency centre having an MRI as she was so bad, now when it serious like that you realise how bloody good the NHS is and when you have a life threatening problem there isnt any better care in the world.

Put it in writing and dont get fobbed off, your posts seem eloquent enough just scream and shout..... PS if you want PM Ive been theer before with pregnancies from hell .. more than once

 

[damianmkv]

yep -its EXACTLY that, Andy. Fine for 6 weeks then bingo - sip of water - sick. Bite of a rich tea - sick. Look at food - sick. I feel so bad for her, I really do. My next thing is to see whether my private healthcare will cover her....

I usually go softly softly then guns blazing if I don't hear what I want to, IYKWIM

 

[damianmkv]

PS - the Doctor said if Natalie was really unlucky, sickness could last upto 20 weeks. Last time, it lasted until Charlie was born by emergency c-section.[+o(]

 

[andymac]

Its bloody awfull.... I spent six months working, running to school, running the house and being a single parent to my son... as my wife was either in bed or hospital... thing is everytime they go in they do the same course of treatment and diagnosis, water, chuck up, tablet chuck that up.... errr wait for doctor. Injection and drip.. now we get somewhere she can hold water down etc etc.. and she might be OK for a week.

I was willing to pay for private treatment just so she could go into hospital for 2 days week and get a drip.. before she ended up so ill she had spend 10 days every2-3 weeks recovering.

Still makes me angry now, the treatment of it in the states is soo much better, being pro-actibe as against reactive

 

[marriedblonde]

Haven't been on for a while - is everything OK with Claire ?

Yes thanks [] D-day was last thursday so we are just getting a little impatient now...

J.

 

[marriedblonde]

yep -its EXACTLY that, Andy. Fine for 6 weeks then bingo - sip of water - sick. Bite of a rich tea - sick. Look at food - sick. I feel so bad for her, I really do. My next thing is to see whether my private healthcare will cover her....

OMG that is bad!!! Someone else Claire and i know was very similar not very pleasant at all. I'm keeping my fingers crossed for her.

J.

 

[bazking69]

Any time my missus or I have spent in A&E in the last 3 years have been a similar experience.

Shockingly slow to even get seen, virtually nothing happening once through, waiting endlessly for the various doctors, speaking to people and you cannot understand a word they are saying, noone there to speak to, noone to give you an answer to anything etc

Pretty terrible really.

 

[damianmkv]

it gets worse ! I've just come back from the hospital and Natalie is back on a drip, so I ask why as she was taken off it yesterday at 6pm. Apparently, she shouldn't have been and they only "discovered" that at 1.30am []. So, her ketones have returned to 4 ( which I understand is really not good, kind of on the " you aren't drinking or eating. Your body is now getting its energy from your muscle - not your fat. Your kidneys are starting to get distressed " ).

Oh, and the sickness tablet she asked for at 2pm eventually arrived at 11.30pm. Not bad as she'd spent hours and hours throwing up !

Hoorah for the NHS ! All because they are too busy to do their jobs. On the upside (not ), they've lost her notes too

I'll be glad when she comes home to "safety"

 

[Lisa B]

Why doesn't this surprise me?! Bloody useless.....[]

 

[W36 EJO]

It's a simple case of too much to do now. Your wife will have in reality about 30 people if not more that do something for her, but you never notice this.

Feel for you though. Which hospital is it? Can see what they are rated like if you like. Some are a lot worse than others.

The only thing you can do is sit safely in the knowledge that people like myself are sitting behind the scenes! []

I don't have anything to do with hospitals anyway. One thing I can tell you is it's never deliberate. Communication is a massive barrier in the NHS, if 1 doc dealt with your wife, she would be sorted by now, guarenteed. But, if 1 thing doesnt get passed from one nurse to the other, the next nurse will go over the same things again.

 

[Lisa B]

It's a simple case of too much to do now. Your wife will have in reality about 30 people if not more that do something for her, but you never notice this.

Feel for you though. Which hospital is it? Can see what they are rated like if you like. Some are a lot worse than others.

Without sounding harsh, why couldn't one of the '30 people' give this lady a tablet to stop her being sick then? Why did it take so long and why is there never anyone to talk to and ask questions, v. frustrating when someone you care about is suffering...

 

[damianmkv]

The only thing you can do is sit safely in the knowledge that people like myself are sitting behind the scenes! []

[:|] we're all dooooomed ![]

Its St. Peter's in Chertsey, Surrey. It annoys me because they keep saying she can go home today, which turns into tomorrow, and tomorrow...

She works in the private bit of the hospital anyway, so you'd think they'd afford their own colleagues some service...Maybe they are[:O]

 

[andymac]

The only thing you can do is sit safely in the knowledge that people like myself are sitting behind the scenes! []

[:|] we're all dooooomed ![]

Its St. Peter's in Chertsey, Surrey. It annoys me because they keep saying she can go home today, which turns into tomorrow, and tomorrow...

She works in the private bit of the hospital anyway, so you'd think they'd afford their own colleagues some service...Maybe they are[:O]

I beg to differ Graham.. it is with this condition (Hyperremis gravidarum) often quite deliberate.. I know I have seen it. there seems to be this attitude of "your not sick your pregnant" now "get on with woman and stop whining" honestly the attitude of some of the midwifes, doctors, nurses absolutely stank.

What changed it for us was educating ourselves, and also relaying her treatment (or lack off) to the proffessor at the neurology ward, he was disgusted, as serios de-hydration like this can quite easily leave brain clots that can kill or leave in a vegatitive state (this is what they thought lisa had). Once we were able to point out that the neuro centre had warned us to get a her re-hydrated quickly due to risk of brain clots, she was generally on a drip within 10 minutes, and a sickness injection given in a matter of an hour of arrival.

Damian it might be worth going to the GP with your wife, the GP can prescribe some pretty decent anti sickness tablets, it wont help when shes sted throwing up, but lisa was able to keep them down once she had been in hospital and was fully re-hydrated. But it took me to goto the doctors to lay it on real thick about how it was affecting our cons schooling and how I was getting depressed and coudnt cope etc etc ... its often the only way to get help. IE the ones who chout the loudest get the most help.