So, my boyfriend bought a '96 Cherokee (XJ) SE, for way too much, like
around $3,000. It broke down and he has put another $2,500 in it and
totally rebuilt the engine and did a lot of after market work on it. He
has and will do all the labor himself, he refuses to pay for labor. Now,
he finds out that the motor needs to be taken back out and fixed again
and is looking at another $700. I said he should just sell it and wipe
his hands clean, he says he won't make enough.
Firstly, what is your guys' opinion on what he should do? Secondly, how
much do you think he could make parting it versus just the whole car as
Epic [H]You want my opinion? Ok…
Shut the hell up. You're not his wife. You're not paying for the
repairs. It's absolutely none of your business what he does with his
Jeep or his money. I know your type well… first it's "Sell the Jeep
because it's costing too much money." Then it's "No, you can't go spend
the weekend with your buddies because I need you to take me shopping."
Then it's "Oh gee, honey… I'm pregnant. Gosh, I have no idea how that
You're a DreamKiller. You kill a guy's dreams, take away his future,
tie him down with a fat mortgage and too many babies, and turn him into
just another miserable guy wondering, "How the hell did I get here?"
Do you really want to help him? Here's what you do… go to your local
library (it's a big building with books inside) and check out a couple
of books on rebuilding engines. Read them, over and over, until YOU
understand what needs to be done. Then help him get that engine out and
rebuild it. Tie your hair back in a ponytail, put on some old jeans
and get your hands dirty. Hand him wrenches, hold the light, pull the
wire connectors apart, help him get the hood off… help him with anything
he needs. When he gets tired, run inside and make him a hot lunch or
dinner. Fix him coffee, hot chocolate, whatever he wants. (But NO
beer. Beer is for when the job is done.)
Then when the day is over and you're both exhausted from working on the
engine, push him into a hot shower and jump in with him. Scrub his
back, wash his hair, rinse him off, and dry him with fluffy towels still
hot from the dryer. Then push him into bed and screw his ears off.
Then get up the next day and do it all over again.
Make him realize that rebuilding an engine is a slow and methodical
process. Make him realize that every step should be regarded as
surgery; every step must be perfect… perfect torque, perfect fit,
perfectly clean. If you run into a step that you just can't figure out,
ask for help from someone who knows what he's doing. Are you cute?
Put on a low-cut top, show some cleavage and go (by yourself) to the
local Jeep shop, and explain to the guys that you are helping your
boyfriend to rebuild his engine and neither of you can figure out this
one little step, and do they have any advice…
Think it won't work? Think again. We guys love to help cute girls,
even if they have a boyfriend. (Hey, maybe you've got a sister, or
But absolutely DO NOT whine or complain. Do not say a single negative
thing. Not a single "Oooooo, I broke a nail." If you break a nail, or
cut your finger, or bang a knuckle, you just shut up and DEAL WITH IT.
You should be a hopelessly optomistic, never-say-die cheerleader,
encouraging him every step of the way.
That's my opinion.